Name: Paul W
Comments: My wife left me and there is no contact at all. she goes to church and claimed to be a believer when I married her 2 years ago, but i see no evidence of salvation. there is no conviction of the Holy spirit in her life and I see none of the fruit of the spirit especially the fruit of love. She has dumped all the financial responsibility on me and will never answer any e-mails or texts. am I free to divorce her or do I have to wait until she divorces me. I have never been so degraded and dehumanized by a person in my life. cna you give me some guidance on this? Thanks allot, Paul
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Hi Paul.
Without more information, it would be impossible for me to know how to advise you on this. I know that you and your wife say that you believe, but Jesus has never accepted man’s testimony of faith (see. Jn. 2:23-25; 6:66-71;16:29-32). I’d have to know if God has borne witness to your faith by giving you the holy ghost (see Acts 15:8).
Secondly, I would caution you from ever judging by what you see and hear (see Jn. 7:24; Isa. 11:3). Just because someone claims to believe and just because a person “goes to church” does not mean that person belongs to God, or even cares about Him, for that matter. In fact, going to church may be a big part of the problem, since our heavenly Father despises church religion and is calling His children out of it (Rev. 18:4).
Jesus will take care of your finances. That is just one of the things God has promised to do for those who seek, first of all, His kingdom of God (the holy ghost – Rom. 14:17) and His righteousness (Mt. 6:33).
Have you or your wife ever been baptized with the Spirit, with the evidence of “stammering lips and other tongues”? (Isa. 28:11-12; 1Cor. 14:21-22). If not, neither of you are in the kingdom of God, and the first thing you should do is seek it. Otherwise, none of the instructions for married people found in the scriptures apply to your situation. If you have received that new birth experience, let’s keep this conversation going, and Jesus will show you his way of peace.
I hope that Jesus will give you and your wife peace. I know that he can, if we do our part.
Pastor John